Updated: Dec 4, 2020
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Looking at the title you may wonder why we are discussing Albert Ellis or asking who this guy is... well I'm going to tell you and explain why Abba Yah gave this information to Albert Ellis.
Albert Ellis, American psychologist (born Sept. 27, 1913, Pittsburgh, Pa. —died July 24, 2007, New York, N.Y.), developed the psycho-theraputic approach known as rational emotive behavior therapy, which aims to help patients overcome irrational beliefs and unrealistic expectations
REBT’s ABC Theory: The Diagnostic Step
Based on Ellis’ theory that individuals are blaming outward events on their negative emotions instead of their interpretation of the events, the ABC Model was proposed as:
A – Activating Event: an event that happens in the environment
*This can be anything that triggers you and makes you upset
*This Can Be A Traumatic Event (Natural Disaster, Pandemic, Abuse, Neglect, Rape...)
B – Beliefs: the belief you have about the event that happened
*Some Common Beliefs are:
"It's all my fault..."
" If I was only good/better/wealthier/....I could have prevented...."
"I'm dirty and disgusting and deserve to be treated like shit"
"If God Loved Me He Wouldn't Have Allowed This..."
C – Consequence: the emotional response to your belief
*Some Common Emotional Responses Include
Yelling At Your children/spouse/ co-workers for no reason
This model was developed to educate others of how beliefs are the cause of emotional and behavioral responses, and not that events cause our emotional reactions.
Here’s an example that will help you understand better:
A – Your spouse falsely accuses you of cheating on him/her
B – You believe “What a jerk! S/he has no right to accuse me of that!
C – You feel angry/upset
If you had a different belief (B), the emotional response (C) would be different:
A – Your spouse falsely accuses you of cheating on him/her
B – You believe, “This cannot end our relationship – that would be too much to bear if we got a divorce.”
C – You feel anxious that your relationship might end
Here again, the ABC model is illustrating that it is not the event (A) that causes the emotional response, rather, it’s the belief (B) about the event that causes the emotional response (C). Because people interpret and respond differently to events, we don’t always have the same emotional response (C) to a given event.
The beliefs that end up in negative emotions are, according to Albert Ellis, a variation of three common irrational beliefs. Coined as the “Three Basic Musts,” these three common irrational beliefs are based on a demand – about ourselves, others, or the environment.
I must do well and win others’ approval or else I am no good.
Others must treat me fairly and kindly and in the same way I want them to treat me. If they do not treat me this way, they are not good people and deserve to be punished.
I must always get what I want, when I want it. Likewise, I must never get what I don’t want. If I don’t get what I want, I’m miserable.
If we don’t realize “Must 1,” we likely feel anxious, depressed, shameful, or guilty. If we are not treated fairly, as per “Must 2,” we usually feel angry and may act violently. If we don’t get what we want, per “Must 3,” we may feel self-pity and procrastinate.
According to Albert Ellis, the following are the three major insights of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy:
When individuals understand and accept that the main cause of emotional reactions are their beliefs about an event instead of the event itself. That is, we don’t just get upset from an event. We upset ourselves because of our irrational beliefs.
When people acquire irrational beliefs, if they do not deal with them, they “hold” onto the beliefs and it’s what continues to upset them in the present. That is, these individuals still wholeheartedly believe in the “three musts.”
Ellis made it clear that understanding these insights does not make us inherently “better.” That is, understanding these beliefs and having insights into how they effect our emotional responses is not enough to “cure” us. In reality, the best way to get better and stay better through REBT is to continually work on recognizing our irrational beliefs, disputing them, changing our irrational “musts,” and transforming negative emotions into more positive ones. Simply put, the only way to get better is through the hard work of changing our beliefs. It takes time and practice.
When we understand that our emotions drive us to do things we normally wouldn't do, we can change the way we behave. Abba Yah told us that His Morals, Values, Ethics, Principles, Integrity, also known as Righteousness is What Saves Us. When we Put on His Word, We no longer hold on to those Irrational beliefs about ourselves or others. It is Irrational to continue to believe that you deserved to be raped, beaten, stolen from, cheated on...and so on. When You Know You are Not That Person/Victim/Abuser Any Longer, Abba Yah Has Changed You and these thoughts should be gone and or easier to manage and notice and the depression should be less and less.
What Does Abba Yah's Word Say about Changing Our Perspectives?
35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
36 As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.
37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Nothing can separate us from Abba Yah. Not unless we Allow it too. Paul says: Neither distress or persecution or famine... When we are in the constant state of sadness, anger, rage, addiction...because of trauma: we have Allowed the Activating Event (A) control us. Abba Yah Is or should be the Spirit within you... NOT Guilt Or Shame, Or Fear or Malice, or Jealousy, or Envy...When we continue to live in Old Wine Skins we leave Abba Yah. It's Never To Late To Change Your Perspective.
Remember Its A Battle For Your Mind!
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
When you change your perspective about who Rules This World The Way it Is Now ( A sermon), you begin to understand it is a heart and mind issue. People's Actions come from our hearts and minds. When we think Negative we Produce Negative Results.
I firmly believe demons exist. I have seen them manifest before my eyes many times in different people. I believe that when rape, molestation, abuse of any kind, murders and other horrific behavior occurs it is due to demonic energy controlling people/ person preforming this act. Folks, its Halloween, have you seen peoples yards?? Many people worship the demons and evil. So Why Cant WE Rationalize That Demons/Neg Spirits Control People and Do Things That Are Beyond Our control? So for me to rationalize my trauma for everything, I use Ephesians 6:12 and Believe That Abba Yah's Word is Truth.
Abba Yah Uses Everyone if We Allow Him To Regardless of What We Have Done or Experienced.
Did You Know King David Committed Adultery And Had a Man Killed, then because of his actions Abba Yah took his child?
2 Samuel 11:2-5
2 Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath. 3 He sent someone to find out who she was, and he was told, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” 4 Then David sent messengers to get her; and when she came to the palace, he slept with her. She had just completed the purification rites after having her menstrual period. Then she returned home. 5 Later, when Bathsheba discovered that she was pregnant, she sent David a message, saying, “I’m pregnant.”
David Arranges for Uriah’s Death
2 Samuel 11:14-21
14 So the next morning David wrote a letter to Joab and gave it to Uriah to deliver. 15 The letter instructed Joab, “Station Uriah on the front lines where the battle is fiercest. Then pull back so that he will be killed.” 16 So Joab assigned Uriah to a spot close to the city wall where he knew the enemy’s strongest men were fighting. 17 And when the enemy soldiers came out of the city to fight, Uriah the Hittite was killed along with several other Israelite soldiers.
18 Then Joab sent a battle report to David. 19 He told his messenger, “Report all the news of the battle to the king. 20 But he might get angry and ask, ‘Why did the troops go so close to the city? Didn’t they know there would be shooting from the walls? 21 Wasn’t Abimelech son of Gideon[d] killed at Thebez by a woman who threw a millstone down on him from the wall? Why would you get so close to the wall?’ Then tell him, ‘Uriah the Hittite was killed, too.’”
The Out Come of this was horrific. Sometimes we must understand that we are being punished for our actions. Abba Yah caused David's baby to die (2 Samuel 12:15,18) 15 After Nathan returned to his home, the Lord sent a deadly illness to the child of David and Uriah’s wife. 18 Then on the seventh day the child died. We bring things upon ourselves. David knew it was a sin to commit adultery with another man's wife. Then he got her pregnant on top of that, then ordered a hit on her husband. Sounds like a Netflix series to me. The point is: We Have to Accept What we Have Done In The Past As well as Forgive Our Selves!
If we look at our past and see our mistakes, then we can also see that IT TOOK ABBA YAH drastic measures to get us where we are today. Why would you want to keep staying negative? when in David's case a child's life was taken? When you are addicted to drugs and alcohol (which is the major drug that should be illegal) we are harming our children if we have them as well as Our future children because sperm and eggs are effected by drugs. We cause more harm to our families when we are drug addicts, murderers, cheaters... These things break up homes, break up the mind; that is why teens these days have a higher risk of suicide.
You may argue Abba punished an innocent child, but isn't that what we do when we cheat or murder people, when we are violent to our spouses or to each other?
Some times it takes Drastic Measures To wake Up!
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Sometimes we get in The Way of Our Blessings because we don't know how to accept Everything is Apart of Abba Yah's plan. When we constantly focus on "What If This or What if That didn't happen", we are not living in the present and we are allowing the evil to win. When we are sad, depressed, upset, angry, we let the evil win. Jeremiah 29:12-14 12 In those days when you pray, I will listen.13 If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.14 I will be found by you,” says the Lord. “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes.
We create our own Babylon when we remain focused on the past, on depression on negativity. Babylon H894-בָּבֶלBâbel, baw-bel'; from H1101; confusion; Babel (i.e. Babylon), including Babylonia and the Babylonian empire:—Babel, Babylon.
Babylon means confusion. Everything in The Bible is a lesson and holds meaning. Same way with Babylon. When we are trying to move forward and heal yet let the triggers and emotions run us, we thus created a state of confusion. We start doubting our progress, we start questioning our calling in life, we start questioning our life, we may think that our healing and health no longer matters. Abba Yah says: When you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. Abba Yah tells us Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
We do not have to live in a constant state of confusion. Abba wants us to come lay our burdens at His Feet and Lean on Him. We may not understand His ways, But No Where in The Bible does He state He wants us to continue punishing ourselves for our past mistakes or for what people Whom We Cannot Control have done to us. We cannot control the weather nor did we create the pandemic. What we can do is understand and change our perspective on whats going on.
For me I believe this pandemic is Abba Yah and His judgement. I do believe we are in Revelation and Abba Yah's Return is Close. He will manifest Himself to Us All and Oh What a Glorious Day!
Hurricanes and natural disasters are common. We do see things intensify in regions of the world. I do believe that some of these fires on the East Coast is due to Abba Yah's Judgement. Ezekiel 15:8 Thus I will make the land desolate, because they have acted unfaithfully,’” declares the Lord God. Abba Yah doesn't enjoy bringing destruction upon His people and we Are All His People, just some of us are still to stubborn to See and Change. Exodus 32:14 And the Lord relented from the disaster that he had spoken of bringing on his people.
Again things happen when the Majority of Us Do NOT Walk In Faith, the Rest of Us Who Do, we get to experience the repercussions, but know in the Last Days we are protected. It's just like Abba Yah protecting His people in Egypt when He sent the Plagues and Wrath on Pharaoh. They painted blood of a lamb, We Have the Blood of our Lamb Yahusha dwelling In Us now!
1 Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” 3 Surely he will save you from the fowler’s snare and from the deadly pestilence. 4 He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.5 You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, 6 nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday.7 A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you.8 You will only observe with your eyes and see the punishment of the wicked.
Things may have happened to you that were caused by other people, by your own actions, by Abba Yah, but you have two choices:
Continue to beat yourself up or
Change Your Perspective which Really does Change your Life. The choice is yours and it is a constant battle for your mind, Remember that!
Our beliefs about ourselves and Life are powerful. We hold the power to create or destroy. 2 Timothy 1:7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. This power can create love or hate. This power can be utilized for self-control or for self-pleasure and sin. When we remain in our memories and form irrational beliefs, we are in the spirit of Fear and That is Not What Abba Yah wants for us.
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